How it all began

So the first night I met my husband, D, was interesting and fun. But when he told me he was starting a new band I knew I was in for a strange ride. I was right.

So was my dad when I told him I was dating a guy in a band and he told me I'd always be number 2. Not that my husband would let me lay in a hospital dying while he was out jamming out some tunes, but as far as activities go his def. come first.

He always says it's work, because he's getting paid for it. Ok whatever.

Secretly I love that he's in a band. I love to go out and watch the people and not have to pay to get in. But yeah once in a while I'd like to not change my plans because we have to go to some ratty bar.

I've learned alot about people. Most people are a facade. They are like a hallway. all the doors closed and things look pretty good. But you open up that one and figure out why the owners had it closed.

The first band he was in broke me into the music world real good and I swore I wouldn't let another newbie in without certain pieces of information.

1. People are nice to you most of the time because you are with the band. They will turn on you quick if you are no longer with the band.

2.Even though you are the woman and have much better ideas they are only suggestions and 99% will be thrown to the wayside until someone else does it then "we were wrong we should have listened to you" but they never learn.

3."get used to it" the #1 catch phrase in a musical relationship. You could be dying, sleep deprived, gotta work at 5am. They say they aren't' going to tear down. 30 minutes later when it could have already been torn down and you on your way home they decide to tear down. AHHHHHH and they say women make no sense. But when you remind them of your ailment they say "you should be used to this" or if your new "get used to it". Well guess what jack you should be used to me wanting to go home when it's almost daylight. Gee what was I thinking.

4.Things that you don't do.
a. Demand something of them when they are on stage. That's a quick way to have to find a new ride home and new place to live.
b. Just because the ladies are talking to them doesn't mean anything. Whey they are sticking their tongue in your mans ear, get up walk over to the bouncer and ask him to remove her from the stage, wait until she's in the ladies room then tell her POLITELY to stay the hell away from him. Usually she'll just blow it off, or she'll apologize. Either way LET IT GO, remember that what you do in the club ultimately reflects on the band. If they don't play you don't party.
c. Don't think you get everything for free. Cover charge is one thing drinks are another. Most places will either give the wives/dates the drinks for free or at a discount. Some places do not. Live with it.

Signing off for now.
S,.