Scheduling

When your life becomes centered around the band this is what causes the most problems. When the guys are making a billion dollars a year you tend to overlook those things. But when they aren't making a billion dollars a year you tend to need them around more. The hardest thing is when we have to change plans or put things on hold because we don't know if a practice is being called or a show has been planned. So I usually sit around pouting but know it doesn't matter. I either attend his function, or attend the other function by myself. Ahhh such is this life I suppose.

There are 2 times of the year (excluding major holidays) that I know what I want counts and that is my birthday and our anniversary- Which we just had yesterday thankyouverymuch. 7 years. Those days are for us to do whatever I want. If that means he wears a pink tutu all over town he would. I've never asked him to because of the embarassment I'd have. I look forward to those days all year long. The other days are up for grabs.

The times when the practice and 2 hour late night phone calls pays off, is when the radio station calls and wants him to do a radio show, or wants his band to open for the hot show. When bars all over are calling him to book gigs, when a little 9 year old boy shows up at our house at 10pm with his uncle and is all googlie eyed about meeting the drummer for his favorite band and gettin a broken drumstick and his picture taken with him. When you get the call to do a benefit for someone who has a disease or was in a bad accident. When you can make that person smile for the first time in a long time. Those are when it pays off. NOt just in money but when you can say you truely entertained someone.

Since I'm a giver I volunteer his band for any organization I'm involved in. He's done the American Cancer Society Relay for Life, a Benefit show for the families of National Guard troops that were deployed, about a thousand benefits for random people that are from our community. When people want music I volunteer my husband and that's that.

So today's lesson is this. Yes being married to a guy in a band is a pain. But when you are active in your community and they need musicians-volunteer your husband. It's called networking and he may be asked to do it again and again.